Just Life By Bri Luft, PharmD, and Steph Lewis, PharmD, BCPS
We met at the APhA–ASP Summer Leadership Institute in 2013 and have continued connecting at conferences and become even better friends since graduating! Last year, we excitedly shared details about our weddings over tacos, and this fall, we are getting married 1 week apart from each other.
It’s been so fun to have a fellow pharmacist (we are even both marrying pharmacists) to bounce ideas off of and share this happy time with. We came together and wanted to share what we think is most important for wedding planning as a New Practitioner.
Steph: Stay organized
As pharmacists, we are generally great at organizing our ideas, making checklists, and paying attention to detail. These skills come in handy, as wedding planning is a pretty massive endeavor. I recommend picking up a book and/or binder on wedding planning and using apps such as The Knot and WeddingWire to help keep you on track with deadlines and tasks.
I also maintain several lists on my phone: hashtag ideas, random wedding ideas, song lists, restroom basket supplies, and welcome bag supplies, to name a few. Pinterest is also excellent for keeping track of all those ideas and inspiring new ones.
Bri: Start early
Wedding vendors and venues book quickly, so it’s important to begin planning and signing contracts as early as possible. I thought 18 months out was plenty of time to have my pick of vendors, but I had to contact five DJs before one was available! Give yourself the best chance at booking who/what you want most by reaching out to them as early as you can.
Steph: Lean on others for support
You have selected your bridesmaids and groomsmen for a reason. They all likely have unique skills and abilities that you should use. If you have a friend who loves crafting or a friend who is great at curating playlists, ask them to help with that task. It is like running an executive board: the president (a.k.a. the bride) can’t do everything alone, so tasks need to be delegated.
Another type of support you will likely need during the planning process is emotional support. Be sure to plan plenty of date nights with your future spouse where you focus on things other than wedding planning. Never hesitate to ask your family members and friends for advice. I know that I have relied a lot upon my fiancé, family, and wedding party for both advice and emotional support during this process.
Bri: Budget for what’s most important to you
Before I got engaged, I had a Pinterest board filled with what I thought I wanted my wedding to look like. I quickly realized that Pinterest wedding would cost about a billion dollars, so I had to start prioritizing what was most important to me. I used theknot.com budgeting tool to help me determine where I could cut costs and where I wanted to allot more money.
I realized I could live without flower centerpieces, but I couldn’t sacrifice an awesome photographer or preprinted place cards. My budget has grown since I initially set it, but my fiancé and I always consider what we can’t live without on our wedding day!
Enjoy the moment
After all the planning, hard work, and stress, it will be time to accept that you have put in your best effort, and all you can do on the big day is relax and enjoy. Everything will work out. Take the time to step away with your new husband or wife and enjoy the moment. In the end, you are marrying your best friend, so regardless of whatever else happens, your wedding day will be perfect!
Best of luck if your big day is coming soon!